Saturday, February 26, 2011

The Release

The Release 

Ç Judith Froemming 2010

You review
the day from your bed,
and release
the things that have bled.
You preview
the morrow, less dread,
and release
expectations ahead.
You hug
your arms 'round your head,
and dream
the One Dream, instead.
Time to let go
and receive.

Thursday, February 24, 2011

Lost and Found


Lost and Found
ç Judith Froemming 2011

When I found myself without money,
I learned to share myself.
When I lost my house,
I became a traveler.
When I lost my parents,
...Mother Earth and Father Sky gave me a Family.
When I found myself without a child,
I re-parented myself.
When I lost my job,
I created my calling.
When I found myself without beliefs,
I learned compassion.
When I lost my direction,
I found my Way.

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

The Retreat

The Retreat
ç 2011 Judith Froemming

Five days in the woods,
following tracks through the snow.
Five days by the lake,
...watching sun rise and sun go.
Five days in the silence,
a deep, grateful thrill.
Five days on the One seat,
the mind quiet and still.

Monday, February 21, 2011

Being

Being
ç 2011 Judith Froemming

When you are confused,
troubled,
lost at seeing,
breath into your sail...
return to
Being.



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Thursday, February 10, 2011

Generosity

Generosity
ç Judith Froemming 2011

There is such generosity
in letting go of
suffering;
belief,
resistance,
expectation,
disappointment,
achievement,
failure,
knowing,
not knowing,
living,
dying...
The wind sings
a welcome home song
as it dances,
The Dream
through winter trees.

There is such ease
in no leaves.

Every cycle has its
last dance,
final call,
door closing
invitation
to let go.
When I am
this generous,
I'm fully alive
in the open spaces
of stillness.



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Friday, January 28, 2011

When Your Intuition Hits You Like a Train

This post was originally published on the Cirkla blog at www.Cirkla.com.



Train by AussieGall on Flickr
Train by AussieGall on Flickr

One day, I was helping a friend move. We were moving boxes from his old garage to his truck. He was handing boxes to me and I was handing them off to the truck. At one point he turned to me and said, “Hurry up!” I remember being surprised by his command. I put my box down, took a deep breath and responded, “The Universe never asked me to rush.” For a second, a stunned look froze his face, then it melted into laughter. We both laughed and continued at a relaxed pace.

“The Universe never asked me to rush,” was my meta-voice. Because I followed my 'gut feeling' and spoke the thought that had clearly popped into my mind, our moment was relaxed and joyful. In The Intuitive Advantage, Kathryn Harwig say's, “I use intuition to aid my life and I have one measurement. If it improves my life, I keep doing it. If it doesn't, I stop.” I would not have trusted this feeling in the past. I would not have had this thought in the past. It was my intuition guiding me, telling me my truth in this moment.

What is intuition? According to the New Oxford American Dictionary, “intuition is the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. It's a thing that one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning.” There is no right way to receive this information. It's often different for each person. It's like a radio station. My Highest Self or Higher Guidance is broadcasting a signal from the 'station' and in order to pick up the signal, I have to tune into my station's frequency. Only then can I 'receive' the broadcast and pick up the information being transmitted.

Growing up, I never considered myself to be very intuitive. I didn't know that everyone has a great capacity for intuition. I was taught not to trust it, so it went to sleep. If you don't believe your intuition exists, it's pretty hard to recognize it when you meet it. I started to wake up to my intuition in the process of looking for ways to get well. I had severe migraines, allergies, chronic hives and asthma, and was growing tired of prescription medications and dead-end answers to my questions about recovery. I was told to just take my medicine. Something told me that there had to be another way. I didn't know it then, but that was my intuition sending a signal.

Through study and research, I learned to practice a more holistic lifestyle. I started to practice self-hypnosis and insight meditation. This allowed me to focus on remembering who I was and what I came here to do, rather than on who I wasn't and what I didn't come here to do. This self-acceptance gave me the courage to question, re-frame and release my fearful, limiting and erroneous beliefs. It also woke up my intuition.

I also learned how to breathe, again. I learned to shift my breathing from my chest to my diaphragm, which signals the brain to flood the body with relaxing chemistry. Just these two uncomplicated actions allowed me to begin to create an interior calm and balance that felt like nothing I'd ever known before: the ability to end my own suffering. I call this awake. As I began to calm down and wake up, I was able to pay more attention to the signals coming in from my Higher Guidance. I began to pick up these signals. I began to trust my intuition. I began to heal. In Suzuki Roshi’s words, “we pay attention with respect and interest, not in order to manipulate, but to understand what is true. and seeing what is true, the heart becomes free.”

One of my biggest affirmations was an accident. A number of years ago, I went to Germany to study and travel for a month. At the end of a long day of traveling by car, my two companions and I were tired. I was driving and they were discussing how to locate our car rental office in downtown Munich, Germany. We kept missing the address as we circled the block, for the third time.

At a stop light, the discussion intensified. The GPS system kept insisting, 'turn left'', so when the light changed, I waited for a car to cross in front of us, then checked my left and pulled into my turn. A split second later I heard and felt a loud crash. I notice that we'd been hit. I remember asking, 'Will we be alright?' The answer came instantly. A voice in my head said, 'You'll be fine.' I was immediately calm, and felt no anxiety or fear from that moment on. As my senses cleared, I realized that the impact was on the driver's side and I had to be pulled out the passenger door across from me.

We'd been hit by a train.
As I stood outside of our totaled car, looking at this massive commuter train, I remember staring at the train, thinking, 'It's not every day that you get hit by a train and can walk away to tell the story.' While the other two were being attended to by medics, I noticed a woman coming out of the crowd waving a small bottle. She approached the medics, as if offering her bottle, and I saw one of them wave her away. I 'knew' that this was for me. I felt a certainty and rise of energy as I moved toward her. It turns out, she was holding a bottle of Bach's Rescue Remedy. She put a few drops in the glass of water that she was holding, and motioned to a chair that had miraculously appeared (in the middle of eight lanes of rush hour traffic!). There was only one thing to do: sit and drink in the remedy.

As it turned out, we were all fine. The other two had some painful bumps and bruises. I had nothing, except a growing awareness of how good I felt. Not only was I fine, I felt better over the next two weeks than I'd felt in a long time. That voice in my head saying, 'You'll be fine,' was my Higher Guidance. Trusting it allowed me to know that I'd be OK, not just physically, but spiritually, mentally and emotionally. It allowed me to become clear and calm through the whole lengthy process of extricating ourselves from a rush-hour train crash, in a foreign country. It allowed me to extricate myself from a career path that didn't serve my greatest good.

It also allowed me to respond calmly
to one of my traveling companions when she insisted, 'We almost died!' My response was simply, 'And we didn't.' It was clear to me that this was an exit point that none of us took. I didn't know why they didn't take theirs, but it was up to them to figure that out. It was up to me to figure out why I didn't take mine. I already had a clue. My Higher Guidance pointed out that my friends had been given traditional medical assistance, while I was guided to alternative assistance. Oddly, I never met with a medic that day.

I 'knew' this was a sign, for me to re-visit and trust the messages that I'd been getting. I'd been ignoring the signs to create an alternative healing practice rather than a traditional therapy practice. Not sure where to focus, I'd been going back and forth for a few years, taking lots of alternative courses while attending traditional graduate school for theology, then marriage and family therapy. Sitting in the middle of the chaos, drinking Bach's Rescue Remedy, I finally felt clear. I heard the 'voice' in my head, felt the knowing in my gut. Now, as I practice opening, asking, listening, trusting and taking action, I need fewer train accidents to get my attention.

There are many good classes, teachers and books available to guide you in opening to your own intuition. Jump in. It's a great Way to live. Start by simply noticing if something gives you energy (you talk about it, feel a thrill or curiosity, want to take a class in it), trust it. Follow it. This is your intuition, your inner guidance encouraging you to explore this area. If you feel your energy being drained (you feel ill, tired, oppressed or confused) trust this message and walk away from it. Always walk toward something that gives you energy.

With practice, I slowly began to hear my own 'meta-voice of truth' and notice signs from my Highest Self or Higher Guidance. As time went by, my noticings went from once-in-a-while to daily. I noticed that my Guides were so willing to communicate, that once they noticed I was paying attention to a particular sign form, they continued to communicate with this method. It took them a long time to get my attention, so they may as well stick with what works, right? I remain grateful for Higher Guidance and continue to evolve my ability to tune in. I get regular guidance through repeating numbers, coins, patterns, symbolic images and events. It's an amazing Way to live.

Tuning in can begin by creating a simple opening practice. Create your own opportunity every day. You have this same opportunity every hour, every minute and every second of your day. Clear your energy field and prepare yourself to receive your Higher Guidance.

Request for Higher Guidance: Morning Intentions

At the beginning of the day, upon arising, create a practice of opening yourself. Sit quietly, close your eyes and take three long, slow, deep breaths into your diaphragm. Exhale twice as long as you inhale (in to a 4 count, out to a 8 count, even pace). Now, inhale into your diaphragm and on the exhale, state one sentence of your intention. Repeat the breathing, with each statement, until you feel a shift, an opening in your state. Be delighted as you open, ask, listen, trust and take action to signs around you!
I NOW remember who I AM.
I ask for my Highest Guidance today (regarding specific question, if you have one).
I NOW create my life's purpose guided by my Highest Wisdom.
I AM open to receive and understand my Highest Guidance, NOW.
I AM grateful for my Highest Guidance.

Request for Higher Guidance: Evening Intentions

At the end of the day, before sleeping, create a practice of clearing and releasing your day. Sit quietly, close your eyes and take three long, slow, deep breaths into your diaphragm. Exhale twice as long as you inhale (in to a 4 count, out to a 8 count, even pace). Now, inhale into your diaphragm and on the exhale, state one sentence of your intention. Repeat the breathing, with each statement, until you feel an ease, a letting go. Be delighted as you open, ask, listen, trust and take action to signs around you!

I NOW remember who I AM.
I ask for my Highest Guidance tonight (regarding specific question, if you have one).
I NOW release my day to my Highest Wisdom.
I AM open to receive and understand my Highest Guidance, NOW.
I AM grateful for my Highest Guidance.

The Release

You review
the day from your bed,
and release
the things that have bled.
You preview
the morrow, less dread,
and release
expectations ahead.
You hug
your arms 'round your head,
and dream
the One Dream, instead.
Time to let go
and receive.

Ç Judith Froemming 2010

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

A Resolution to Love Yourself Just As You Are



By Judith Froemming
ç December, 2010

The snow is falling, people are bustling, turkeys are roasting. The holiday season is here. Right after you've eaten your fill, opened your presents, and kissed your last relative goodbye, a sense of exhaustion washes over you as you realize that 2010 is over. A new year is about to begin. You think, with a sigh, that you haven't lost those 20 pounds, you're still working at the same unfulfilling job and you are still in the same power struggle with your wife/husband/lover/child/yourself. Where did the possibilities go?

A client recently said to me, “I have to make a New Year's resolution to stop procrastinating, but I'm better at breaking them than making them. Is there a trick to making a good New Year's Resolution?

There is no trick, except in the mind. The only thing that I have to do is question my thoughts about having to be better, work harder, and go faster. What if where I am is exactly where I'm supposed to be? My life is my teacher. What if I'm enough, just as I am? That's a peaceful thought, and in thinking it, I feel better. If I try to force myself to change through tricks and manipulations, I end up pushing the same rock up the same hill over and over again. So I stop pushing against and start going with myself.

Where did this need to constantly push and bend ourselves into a pretzel of twisted improvement come from? We were told a story. When I was a very little girl, I was told that there was a Santa Claus. About age seven or eight, a sixth grader told me that Santa Claus was made up. I was confused and sad, but my mom told me that it was true. She told me that I was growing up now and grownups don't believe in Santa Claus. I didn't find that very helpful, so she told me that I'd still get presents. I felt a little better. When she told me that I could help trick my younger brother, I felt even better. This is just one of the stories I was told. But at least I was told it was a story.

Another story that I was told when I was very young, was that I was born originally sinful (read: not good enough) and that if I didn't try hard to be better, I'd be punished. A lot. No one came back later and told me that this story was also made up. It was. And it was a very scary story for a child. Most of us carry a version of it with us today at the subconscious level. Even if we've personally walked away from this particular doctrine, its residue permeates the subconscious level of our culture.

In many ways we're still pushing, rushing, and forcing to get our lives right, to be better, to go faster because no one came back and told us it's all made up. We're good enough. Even rush hour is made up. I don't have to rush to improve my life. When I create calm hour and calm life, I thrive.

As it turns out, I'm originally blessed. When I live my original blessing, my deep sense of inadequacy dissolves. I begin to trust that my own life will guide me and teach me. I begin to trust that when I do what gives me energy, I thrive and become who I really am. I create my life's purpose with Joy and Balance. And no pushing is needed.

Life happens on its own. It's a flowing river. All I have to do is turn my canoe downstream and paddle with the flow instead of against it. I can trust the process; this natural flow of life. Instead of living my life, life lives me. It gets easier.

Discover the benefits of curiosity and openness. Learn to live in the flow of the Universe. Suzuki Roshi famously called this ability beginner’s mind. In his words, “we pay attention with respect and interest, not in order to manipulate, but to understand what is true. And seeing what is true, the heart becomes free.”

Here are three simple steps to help you begin:

• Find a quite place to sit, close your eyes and take a slow deep breath into your diaphragm (visualize blowing up a balloon in your belly). Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Make your exhale twice as long as your inhale. For example, breathe in to the count of 4 and out to the count of 8. Keep it at the same pace. You don't have to do it perfectly. Human beings do better with practice.

• Take another deep breath in (as above) and on the exhale say in your mind, “I live and breathe in the flow of the Universe.” Repeat this for 5-20 minutes, 2 or 3 times a day, until you feel calm and open. Be curious about what you notice. Rather than judge it, see what you can learn from it. As thoughts, pictures or memories come into your mind, thank them and simply return to your intention statement. You don't have to do it perfectly. There is no such thing as a mistake. There is only new information.

• Through-out the day, anytime you are about to judge yourself or anyone else,
say to yourself (like you really mean it), “I love you, (your name)” and smile.

Trungpa Rinpoche says, “People always want to change their lives instead of using their lives to wake up.”
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